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George the Therapy Dog: A Tale of Love, Healing, and Resilience

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In the tapestry of our lives, there are certain threads that stand out, woven with love, compassion, and boundless joy. One of these threads is my beloved dog, George, a registered and trained therapy dog who has brought immeasurable happiness to countless lives for over a decade.

He’s not just the cutest and sweetest dog; he’s a source of unwavering love and comfort for those in need. Today, I want to share the story of George’s journey, including a recent twist in his path—the diagnosis of a cruciate ligament injury in his left leg.

For more than ten years, George has been a shining beacon of hope and warmth in our community. His kind eyes and gentle demeanor have graced schools, hospitals, and various therapy sessions, where he’s made a profound impact on the lives of many.

From comforting anxious students during exam periods to bringing smiles to the faces of patients facing health challenges, George has been a source of solace and joy to all who have had the privilege of meeting him.

Recently, however, our dear George faced a challenge of his own—a diagnosis of a cruciate ligament injury in his left leg. It was a moment that filled my heart with concern and sadness, knowing that my loyal companion was in pain. But, just as he has brought comfort and healing to others, it’s now our turn to provide him with the care and love he so deserves.

George’s injury has prompted us to take a closer look at his health and well-being, and to explore the best ways to help him on the path to recovery.

While surgery may be an option in the future, for now, we’re focusing on conservative management of his symptoms. This includes hydrotherapy to strengthen his leg, anti-inflammatories to reduce pain and swelling, and plenty of rest to allow his body to heal.

But it’s not just about the physical treatments; it’s about the emotional support as well. George may be semi-retired, but his spirit remains as strong as ever. He thrives on love and cuddles, and I am more than willing to provide him with all the affection and comfort he needs during this challenging time as is my partner, who loves George as much as I do❤️

As I watch him undergo his treatments and see the determination in his eyes, I am reminded of the countless lives he has touched throughout his years of service as a therapy dog. It’s a testament to his resilience and unwavering spirit that even in the face of adversity, he continues to inspire those around him.

In sharing George’s story, I hope to highlight the importance of cherishing our animal companions, who bring so much love and joy into our lives. They are more than just pets; they are family members who deserve our care and attention, just as we would provide for any loved one facing a health challenge.

George may be on a different journey now, one that requires patience and dedication to his recovery, but his spirit remains undiminished. He has given us so much over the years, and now it’s our turn to give back, to ensure that he can continue to enjoy a life filled with love, cuddles, and the occasional visit to the schools and hospitals that have come to rely on his boundless affection.

As we move forward in this healing journey with George, we do so with gratitude for the joy he has brought to our lives and the countless lives he has touched. And we look ahead with hope, knowing that with time, care, and the resilience that defines him, he will overcome this obstacle and continue to brighten the world with his presence.

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Dancing in Love: Breaking Free from Walking on Eggshells

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Love, they say, is like dancing to your favorite song, where every step feels harmonious and free. It’s a rhythm that resonates deep within, igniting joy, warmth, and a sense of security.

But sometimes, we find ourselves in relationships where the dance turns into a delicate balancing act—a constant tiptoeing on eggshells to keep the peace.

I’ve walked that tightrope before, where every word and action had to be carefully measured to avoid setting off an unpredictable storm of anger and retribution. It was a relationship that left me feeling trapped, unheard, and unloved.

In one of my previous relationships, I often felt like a prisoner of my own emotions. I had to suppress my thoughts and feelings, fearing the repercussions of expressing myself honestly.

Walking on eggshells became the norm, and the weight of that constant vigilance left me emotionally drained and disconnected.

No one should ever have to feel they have to walk on eggshells in a relationship. Love should be a sanctuary, a place where you can be your authentic self without fear of judgment or punishment. It should inspire growth, trust, and open communication.

It is possible to find love that embraces vulnerability, where we can share our hopes, dreams, fears, and insecurities without judgment or reprisal. It’s a love that encourages us to be the best versions of ourselves.

Love is not about being controlled or manipulated. It’s about lifting each other up, celebrating our individuality, and nurturing a connection based on respect, trust, and genuine care. It’s about feeling safe to express ourselves and knowing that our partner will genuinely listen to and support us.

I’ve learned that a loving relationship should never be about keeping the peace at the cost of one’s own happiness. It should be about fostering an environment where both partners can flourish, express themselves freely, and feel loved unconditionally.

Now, I dance through life with a heart full of joy and gratitude. There are no eggshells to tiptoe around, no fear of anger or retribution.

If you find yourself in a relationship where you feel the need to walk on eggshells, I want you to know that you deserve better. You have the right to seek a love that inspires dancing, not caution. Genuine love is out there, waiting for you to embrace it—a love that respects, cherishes, and celebrates the beautiful person you are.

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The Dark Side of Wishing Harm: A Tale of Compassion and Resilience

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I have previously written about the car accident I was in a couple months back. But I am writing another post about it, because there was an unexpected plot twist. Please, if you may, read on to find out!

In life, we often encounter challenges and obstacles that test our patience and resilience. But nothing could have prepared me for the shocking cruelty of a wish that no one should ever experience—an ill-wishing from that toxic ex that was so sinister that it pierced through the realms of empathy and humanity.

It all began on a day like any other, with the barely rising sun casting its gentle rays upon the road, painting the world with a soft light and hope. Little did I know that the fallout from this day would forever change my perspective on the power of compassion and the ugliness of ill-wishing.

As I was driving to the gym, the calmness of the day was suddenly shattered by a jarring collision. I barely had time to react as the young nurse behind the wheel of the other car, exhausted from an overnight shift, missed a give-way sign and crashed into my vehicle. The sound of crumpling metal was deafening, and my heart raced as I tried to process what had just happened.

Amid the chaos and the haze of confusion, I stepped out of my car to confront the damage. But my shock quickly turned to disbelief as I saw the condition of the other driver. The young nurse, her eyes filled with tears, was trembling and distraught. She looked as if she had just seen her world crumble before her eyes.

In that moment, any upset I may have felt about the accident was overshadowed by a deep sense of empathy and concern for this young woman. I approached her gently, offering a hug and words of comfort.

I reassured her that no one had been injured, emphasizing that cars can be fixed or replaced, but lives cannot. She clung to me, tears streaming down her face, and I could feel the weight of her distress. She kept apologizing for her loss of attention and she was deeply upset that she may have potentially injured or killed someone.

It was during this profoundly emotional encounter that I realized the true essence of humanity—our capacity for empathy and compassion, even in the face of adversity.

In that moment of vulnerability, the nurse and I connected on a level that transcended the accident. We were two strangers brought together by a twist of fate, finding solace in each other’s understanding and support.

However, what happened next was as shocking as it was heartbreaking. My toxic ex, upon hearing about the accident, decided to exploit the situation in the most despicable way possible.

He sent me a message (on my blog some time after the accident) and called it my “karma” and used the accident as an opportunity to wish me harm, as if I deserved to be hurt for an unfortunate event that was beyond anyone’s control. By extension, by ill-wishing me, he also ill-wished a poor, young nurse and that is despicable.

Such a callous and vindictive response to a situation filled with pain and distress left me stunned and disheartened. It served as a stark reminder that some people choose to revel in the suffering of others, blinded by their own bitterness and resentment.

It revealed the true character of my ex, a person capable of harboring dark thoughts and ill-wishes even in the face of human suffering. My family and friends were shocked beyond measure when I showed them the message.

In the end, this experience taught me two valuable lessons. First, accidents happen, and they are never anyone’s “karma.” We must approach them with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to support one another.

Second, it revealed the true measure of a person’s character, which can be exposed in the most unexpected moments.

As I reflect on this harrowing incident, I choose to focus on the compassion and resilience that emerged from it. I am grateful for the opportunity to comfort and reassure the young nurse, and I am determined to rise above the darkness of ill-wishing and cruelty.

I am deeply grateful that neither she nor I or anyone else were killed or injured. That is all that matters.

In the face of adversity, kindness and empathy will always prevail, reminding us that, no matter how wicked the world may seem at times, our humanity can shine through the darkest of moments.

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Reflections on Life

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I have had a lot of time this year to reflect on my life. Time spent in countless medical waiting rooms to see various specialists, waiting for scans, staying still in scanning machines and a few stays in hospital for operations and other procedures.

All up I am deeply grateful for my life. I have the most wonderful, loving people around me and I could not be more blessed. Yes, there have been challenges and sometimes I have ended up in tears when it all got a bit overwhelming. But equally I have laughed many times at the absurdity of things and very much realise that life is strange, fabulous, harsh, beautiful and the most precious gift that we have.

When I have felt overwhelmed I have thought to myself “ok, deal with this one thing and move forwards.” Mostly that works. Occasionally, it’s like “seriously universe?” Overall, I am reminded that I am fortunate to live in a country with excellent health care and that I can afford private health insurance (I prefer private rooms in hospital – that’s just me and I am deeply grateful for the privilege.)

Today I reflect on all the things that brought me to this point in life. It has been a wonderous journey, occasionally strange and some wrong turns. But I always get back on track, put one foot in front of the other and look towards the future whilst appreciating my here and now.

I have some beautiful friends around me who always offer their love and support. I have been saddened to see four long-term relationships end over the last couple of months for some of my dearest friends. Each of my friends are the kindest, sweetest and most loving of people. It is now my turn to offer my loving friendship and support to them to be a small part of their path forwards into their new lives.

They are all at various stages in the grief process and it is heartbreaking to see them go through this challenge.💔 There is shock and bafflement as to why things have to end. I have wrapped my arms around them (two in person and two virtually due to distance) and told them they are beautiful souls who deserve to be loved and cherished. They really, really do deserve the very best.

Yesterday was RUOK Day and I am reminded that we do need to care for each other and reach out, not just today, but everyday and ask “how are you?” Do it from a place of authenticity. Ask with a genuine belief that you want to hear the answer. A lot of people are not ok at all. Many do not want to share their grief, pain or depression. But if you give them the space and be prepared to listen, hear and offer empathy, then you may help someone open up.

You don’t have to fix things for them. Often listening is enough or a start at least. I have had times where I have been stoic and just pushed through things. Other days I have walked into work feeling mostly fine, then someone says “hey, how are you?” and I end up in tears. I am deeply fortunate that I work in a very supportive environment with really wonderful people and an understanding and empathetic boss.

I am the Safety & Wellbeing officer in my workplace. For RUOK Day I took my dog into work (he’s a registered therapy dog) for customers and team to pet and cuddle. One girl said she was feeling really down that day and seeing George immediately lifted her spirits and changed the tone of her day.

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My message to you all is to be gentle with yourself. Life has many twists and turns. We can have our hearts broken, we can suffer sudden or chronic illness, we can lose people. But if we genuinely and carefully nurture ourselves, then we have the capacity and bandwidth to help each other through the good times and the bad.

As I take one step after another into my future I am fortunate to have my daughter, family & friends by my side offering love and support, laughter and joy. Equally, I am there for them for anything they may face – good or bad – now and in the times ahead. Gratitude is my daily mantra:

I put my energy into things that matter to me. I am grateful for my life’s challenges for helping me grow and become who I am. I am grateful for my dreams and I know I have the power to manifest them. I love myself, respect myself, and accept myself exactly as I am.

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What to do when a pesky ex keeps fussing & bothering you…

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I have one particular ex (won’t name him of course) who constantly leaves sh*tty comments on my blog. He is obsessed with reading it and seems to think everything I write is about him!

I find that narcissists think everything is about them, even when it is not. Heck, I write about my dog and for sure the ex will probably think it’s about him! 😂

His comments on my blog are unhinged, vitriolic and full of b.s. However, in his last one he has decided that he will from now on refer to me as the “nutty professor” (I was a university professor in my career, I’m semi-retired now.) He said he reads every single blog post and will continue to do so and continue to make comments. He is a persistent and serial pest!

Well, it took me a hot minute to figure out that I actually can block his IP address and his email and the IP of his flying monkey, so every time they leave a comment it will auto-delete! So hey 🤡 you blocked now!

As far as insults go, ‘nutty professor’ is pretty lame (some of the things he has called me are unprintable!) and I kind of like it! As my daughter said (oh yeah, he has a go at my baby in his nasty comments too – it is really disturbing.) Anyway, she said that insult just means I am “smart and eccentric” – nothing wrong with that! 😂

If I have the misfortune to run into him at a public venue, he goes out of his way to approach me (in front of multiple witnesses!) and then he trash-talks me in passing. I just pretend he is non-existent and I walk on by!

I may joke about all of this and make light of it, but the entitlement and audacity of this man is astonishing. He thinks he can intimidate me into shutting down my blog or be uncomfortable going out to public venues, because he deliberately goes out of his way to approach me – even when I’ve been with my new partner or with girlfriends. His aim is to intimidate me, but it is not working. I will not be bullied by anyone and certainly not by an overweening, arrogant narcissist!

All humor and levity aside – here are some tips for you if you have a toxic ex who just won’t leave you alone, go away and live their own life far away from you!

TIPS:

Breaking free from a toxic relationship is a monumental step toward reclaiming your peace and happiness. However, it’s not uncommon for a toxic ex-partner to continue fussing and bothering you long after the relationship has ended.

We’ll explore some strategies and coping mechanisms to help you navigate this challenging situation while safeguarding your well-being.

Establish and Enforce Boundaries:

Setting clear boundaries is crucial when dealing with a toxic ex. Define what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior and communicate these boundaries firmly but calmly. Make it clear that you expect respect and space. Be consistent in enforcing these boundaries, and do not engage in conversations or actions that violate them.

Limit Contact:

Minimize contact with your toxic ex as much as possible. Block their phone number, unfollow or block them on social media, and avoid attending events or places where you might run into them. Reducing contact can help diminish their opportunities to bother or fuss with you.

Maintain Emotional Distance:

Emotionally detach yourself from their actions and words. Remember that their behavior is a reflection of their issues, not your worth. Stay focused on your own healing and growth.

Seek Support:

Lean on friends, family, or a therapist for emotional support. Discussing your feelings and experiences with someone you trust can provide validation, clarity, and a sense of relief.

Practice Self-Care:

Taking care of your physical and emotional well-being is paramount. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones. Prioritize self-care to help you stay resilient and centered.

Document Incidents:

If your toxic ex’s behavior escalates to harassment or threats, keep records of their actions, messages, or interactions. This documentation can be valuable if legal action becomes necessary.

Consider Legal Options:

If the situation becomes unmanageable or dangerous, consult with legal authorities or a lawyer to explore potential restraining orders or legal remedies.

Stay Mindful and Patient:

Dealing with a toxic ex can be a long and challenging process. Stay patient and mindful and remember that their behavior may lessen over time as they find other interests or move on.

Navigating the persistent interference of a toxic ex can be emotionally draining, but it’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being. By establishing boundaries, limiting contact, seeking support, and practicing self-care, you can regain control over your life and protect your peace and happiness.

Ultimately, remember that you have the strength to overcome this challenge, and as you continue to heal and grow, the impact of your toxic ex’s interference will gradually diminish. Your well-being and happiness are worth the effort it takes to create a life free from their toxic influence.

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The Love That Inspires: My Daughter and the Blessings of Life!

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Life is a beautiful tapestry woven with the threads of love, and I’ve been blessed with more love and support than I could have ever imagined.

Today, I want to share with you the heartwarming story of how my daughter encouraged me to start this blog, the joy of having her in my life and the loving bond we share.

A Daughter’s Encouragement

It all began with my daughter, my shining star, and my biggest cheerleader. Her unwavering belief in me and her encouragement to share my thoughts and experiences through a blog was the catalyst for this journey. She saw something in me that I hadn’t fully embraced—the passion for writing and the desire to connect with others through words.

Her pride in me was the motivation I needed to take the plunge. Every step I took, every word I wrote, was infused with the love and support she showered upon me. And the most beautiful part? She reads every single post, offering her feedback, her encouragement, and her love. I couldn’t ask for a more wonderful daughter.

A Bond Beyond Words

Our mother-daughter relationship is a treasure I hold close to my heart. We’ve laughed together, cried together, and celebrated each other’s victories and challenges. We’ve grown together, and through it all, our bond has only deepened.

My daughter’s achievements fill me with immense pride. She’s an extraordinary young woman, filled with ambition, kindness, and a heart that overflows with love. Watching her flourish into the incredible person she is today is a privilege I cherish daily.

Life’s Glorious Blessings

Reflecting on my journey, I can’t help but feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude. I am fortunate beyond measure, surrounded by love from my remarkable daughter, my dear friends, my dance community, and a community of readers who have embraced my blog.

Life is indeed glorious. It’s about embracing the love that surrounds you, cherishing the moments that take your breath away, and finding joy in the simplest of things. It’s about having a daughter who is not only proud of her mother but is also a constant source of inspiration. It’s about discovering a love that fills your heart to the brim and knowing that you are cherished.

I am so very fortunate, so very loved, and my heart is full. Life’s blessings are a reminder that even in the midst of challenges, love has the power to transform our world into something truly beautiful.

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Rumors, Gossip, and Living Fabulously: The Power of Ignoring Haters

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In the world of social interactions, there’s an unfortunate reality we all have to face at some point—people gossiping about us behind our backs and spreading rumors.

It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but it’s one that most of us have tasted at some point in our lives.

So, what’s the best tactic when faced with such negativity? In my opinion, it’s to ignore them and keep living your best life, surrounded by love, laughter, and unapologetic fabulousness.

The Sting of Gossip

We’ve all been there—those hushed conversations, the curious glances, and the feeling that something is amiss.

Rumors and gossip can feel like a dagger aimed right at your heart, questioning your character and integrity without your consent. It’s a painful experience that can weigh you down if you let it.

I know for sure I have had bizarre rumors spread about me. I have been shown text messages by some people I know confirming the bs. They showed me because they care about me and they are disturbed by the unhinged messaging and the unwarranted vitriol directed at me and wanted to warn me.

The Power of Ignorance

But here’s the secret that I’ve learned: Gossip only has power if you give it attention. The moment you stop feeding into the drama and cease to acknowledge those who spread rumors, their power over you diminishes. Ignorance, in this case, truly is bliss.

Living Your Best Life

Instead of dwelling on negativity, focus your energy on the things that truly matter in life. Surround yourself with people who love and support you unconditionally.

Spend time with friends and family who appreciate you for who you are, not who others claim you to be.

I am so fortunate to have loyal and loving friends and family who have my back – always and without question! They are a loving circle of support and positive energy surrounding me with a vibe of protection and enduring love.

Dance Like Nobody’s Watching

One of my favorite ways to combat the negativity of gossip is by dancing my heart out. There’s something liberating about moving to the beat, losing yourself in the music, and letting go of all the worries and doubts.

Dance like nobody’s watching because, frankly, they shouldn’t matter.

Embrace Your Fabulousness

Being yourself, unapologetically, is a superpower. It’s about embracing your quirks, your passions, and your uniqueness.

When you stay true to yourself, the rumors and gossip lose their impact. Your authenticity shines like a beacon, leaving no room for doubt or speculation.

Surround Yourself with Love

Your tribe, the people who truly care about you, will always have your back. Lean on them for support during tough times and celebrate the good times together.

When you’re surrounded by love, the negativity of gossip seems inconsequential in comparison.

The Art of Resilience

Living fabulously doesn’t mean that you’re immune to pain or that you should pretend like rumors don’t hurt.

It means that you have the resilience to rise above them, to keep moving forward, and to focus on what truly brings you joy.

Gossip and rumors are like passing storms—they may be turbulent, but they will eventually pass. The best response is to keep living your best life, surrounded by love, laughter, and the things that make your heart sing.

Dance, stay fabulous, and ignore the haters, because in the end, it’s your happiness and authenticity that matter most.

So, let the gossipers gossip, and you just keep being your fabulous self, because for sure I am!

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