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What is astonishingly good is when you connect with someone and you can have an actual conversation with them.
A real, genuine – goes two ways conversation!
I know, right?!?
Not just listening to some bore droning on about the minutiae of their life.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m all happy to have someone share their day-to-day with me. I can listen, be empathetic and engaged.
I’m talking about that person that literally drones on & on, barely pausing for breath and showing scant interest in you or what is going on in your life.
The one-way monologue.
The bore-fest of “me, me, me” and all their woes, constant negativity. and victimhood. Never owning their own actions, blaming absolutely everybody else in their life for everything that has gone wrong for them.
Not for one minute showing any insight into their own self-inflicted drama.
The one who gossips about absolutely everyone else and telling your everybody’s secrets and private information that you really do not want to know about.
For damn sure, they are now gossiping about you! Trust me, he who gossips and bitches about others, will be spreading your private life to anyone who will take the time to listen!
After a number of dud relationships, I am so happy I have a connection with a genuine human with whom I can have engaging and thoughtful conversations. We have shared values and can talk politics and the state of the world and know our world view is aligned.
He is mindful and smart, well read and always keen to learn more. He is open to looking at things from other perspectives. He never gossips and does not bitch about other people. Such a breath of fresh air!
It is delightful to spend time with him exploring our thoughts and ideas and sharing things we have read about and valuing each other’s perspective on life.
You have no idea how lovely it is to have this kind of relationship, for me it is rare. It’s like a caring, genuine friendship and love connection all wrapped up together and it truly warms my heart.
The last time I had anything similar to this was my first husband who sadly died 27 years ago.
I have peace of mind, I am happy as a lark and life is fine and dandy🥰
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