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Transformation, strength & renewal

 

A dear friend of mine sent me this quote by Viktor Frankl:

“When the situation is good, enjoy it.

When the situation is bad, transform it.

When the situation cannot be transformed,

transform yourself.”

She said it reminded her of me.

❤️

It is accurate. Whenever I encounter difficult situations in life, I try to figure out a way to work through it. I like to solve problems and puzzles. But some people and situations, like impossible puzzles, cannot be worked out.

When situations become untenable, I have the capacity to walk away, brush off the dust and transform my life into an even better version.

I value, above all else, peace of mind.

To me it is the most valuable commodity I have.

My life, at this point in time, is the most peaceful and tranquil it has ever been.

I surround myself with kindred souls, people who do not bring stress or drama into my (or their own) life.

That’s not to say I am not supportive when someone is struggling with an aspect of their life. I’m always there for them. I’m there with a listening ear, a cup of tea or coffee and occasionally some useful advice. And if they do not seek my counsel, I can listen without judgement or censure and just let them talk themselves out.

However, I do not allow people to take advantage of me and I keep my boundaries strong and secure.

The peace and serenity in my life is beautiful and glorious and I could not be happier.

It has been hard won. There have been times in my life with some relationships and friendships whereby toxic people have tried to break down my boundaries and drain my energy with their negative, drama filled nonsense.

I have the capacity, even when dragged into the cesspit of someone’s chaos, of being able to maintain a level of distance – like a protective self-shield, that allows me to bear witness to the chaos and understand that it is not of my making.

I can and I will step away.

If someone is trying to destroy your peace of mind or make you feel less than, know that you are worth more than that.

You are a beautiful being full of light and joy. Surround yourself with people who value and cherish you.

Never let anyone pull you down into their vortex of negativity. Rise above it, remove the talons of despair that threaten to rip your skin. And rise, rise like the Phoenix from the ashes. The Phoenix represents transformation, strength, and renewal. You are all of that! I see you❤️

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flying monkeys & other bullies…

Hello my loyal readers🥰

I hope you’re having a wonderful week. Isn’t it glorious when you are surrounded by peaceful, calm and loving people? Life is beautiful ❤️I am so blessed and feeling full of love and gratitude. My life is going well, my health is improving, my relationship is loving and I am so lucky we found each other!

Unfortunately, some folk just can’t let go and keep on being bullies! It is a sad reflection on them and I would like to send them healing vibes. Blessings be upon them and may they find it within their hearts to be kinder and more decent humans.

An earlier blog post was in response to hateful comments I have received, which of course led to another nasty response. Big surprise there (not)😂

They do not give their name and always use a fake email address – but they do name people, so I make sure I do not publish their comments for privacy & confidentiality reasons.

The anonymity and fake email addresses are cowardly. Put your name to your comments and stop hiding behind your keyboard! Stop lurking behind the shadows and come out into the light little flying monkey – I know who you are!🐒

In addition, there is one of my exes who always uses his real name and email address and his comments are wild! Again, I won’t publish them as they are hateful & full of unhinged vitriol  – but I have kept them and shown them to the people I love and who care about me.

I shall address the latest flying monkey comment here:

My blog is written from my lived experience. It does not relate to any one person, it flows from experiences I have had throughout my life.

Your attributing them to one person is baffling. You are commenting on matters to which you were not privy and therefore you do not know what you are talking about.

You then made an obscure reference about a conversation I was having with a friend in the ladies bathroom one time which I wrote about in another blog post (well done for being a loyal reader!). However, you forgot to mention that the conversation related to my cancer diagnosis.

The “unwanted” interaction in the bathroom was from a few months ago. It was from a lady who came out of one of the stalls and decided it was ok to tell me what I should do about having cancer – here’s the link to the blog post where I talk about the incident.

As well meaning as some people are, it really is not helpful getting advice from all and sundry when you are dealing with cancer. Trust me, I’ve had some weird and wacky suggestions!

I prefer to take my advice from my specialists and treatment team.

Anyway, before you put your fingers to your keyboard again to send me yet another (unwanted and unwarranted) piece of diatribe, get your facts straight. Better yet, shut up and go away!🐒

Peace and love y’all✌️

 

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