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Waking in the night…

One of the not so great elements of getting older…

Is that you tend to need to get up to pee more often during the night. Sometimes once, sometimes (like last night) literally every two hours!

That just leads to disrupted sleep and feeling tired the whole of the next day. Not only did my bladder give me a hard time last night, my smoke detector alarm also decided to join in!

Wired in smoke detectors are required by law and I have two. One outside my bedroom door and one in the passageway leading to the garage. They also have back up 9volt batteries in case there’s a power outage.

Of course the back up battery in the one right outside my bedroom door decided it was done at midnight, because of course midnight is the time for batteries to die.

Which means that the smoke detector alarm starts emitting this really loud intermittent squawk and it won’t stop. Woke me up, woke my dog up and wouldn’t let us get back to sleep. Sigh!

So I got up, turned on the light (which I hate doing in the night, my poor eyes do not appreciate bright lights in the night), unscrewed the smoke detector from the ceiling, then unscrewed the unit and yoinked out the battery.

Silence!

Then an hour later I woke again to pee! Seriously bladder? Calm down! Image of Rolling on the Floor Laughing emoji

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Dental hygiene y’all!

Getting a crown (not the royal crown, the tooth crown!)

I’ve just come back from the dentist and my face is still numb and my tongue feels like it’ll flop out or worse that I might be dribbling, but not realize it!

Fortunately I am home on my own with my dog and he doesn’t mind the odd drool! 😂

I have reasonably good teeth for my age (64). I have not had any teeth extracted and only have a few fillings. However, one of those fillings is more filling that tooth – in one of the back molars.

I’ve always gone to the dentist regularly, every six months for a scale and clean and then, over the years, the odd filling. I chipped a front lower tooth a few years back and they built it back up with amalgam. I’ve had it done twice and it’s lasted over 20 years!

I’m a bit paranoid about dental health and hygiene. My dad had false snappers from his 50s (he never went to the dentist until it was far too late!) and I have delightful (not) memories of him at the dinner table, popping the saliva coated teeth on the table. He was unable to eat apples or other crunchy things as he had difficulty biting into them.

My mother also eschewed the dentist’s chair all her life and in the last 20 years of her life she only had a sprinkling of brown stumps in her mouth with many gaps from teeth that had rotted and fallen out! It made life difficult for her as she found it hard to eat most things and in the end she would just reheat frozen sliced chicken and vegetable dinners that she bought in bulk from the supermarket. It was soft and mushy and she could manage to get that down with minimal chewing.

My parents were of a generation and background that did not think dentists were necessary, certainly not on a regular basis. They thought it was a waste of time and money. My sisters and I had no dentist visits as children, my first proper dentist appointment was when I turned 18 and my boyfriend said I should go, he was shocked that I had never been.

I was shocked that he thought one should! I’m so glad he did get me to make that first appointment, fortunately my teeth were fine and I didn’t need any treatment, apart from X-Rays and a clean. But it started a lifelong devotion to dental hygiene and good practice for me. Even so, I did require some fillings over the years, but not too many thank goodness.

So, back to my molar. As I said it was more filling than tooth and over the years my dentist has suggested getting a crown, but no pressure and no urgency. She mentioned it again at my last check up and I thought, yep now is a good time. I’m semi-retired, I have private health insurance and so I booked in to have it done.

It requires two appointments. Today’s was to dig out the old filling, grind down the molar, take a mold for the porcelain crown and put in a temporary crown for two weeks until the permanent one is made and ready to be glued in/on. She put numbing gel on my gum and then jabbed the syringe in, it wasn’t painful, but I could taste the anaesthesia in the back of my throat, unpleasant but bearable.

In two weeks I go back and she will remove the temporary crown and glue on the permanent one. In the meantime I have to chew on the other side, not eat nuts or crunchy things, not floss around the temporary crown and use a manual toothbrush on that tooth 🦷🦷

 

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Georgie-boy…

My dog is the best!

George went to the groomers yesterday and had a day of doggie daycare as well. He had a slightly shorter cut this time as it’s close on summer time in our neck of the woods and I don’t want him overheating. I took this photo of him and he looks so sweet and neat & tidy too! He has the most beautiful soulful eyes 🥰

So I thought I’d share the picture and share the love. I gave him a treat after taking his photo as he’s very patient with me. He sat there all nice and chill whilst I snapped a few pics until I got one that felt like I got the composition right. He has the nicest temperament, is very relaxed and calm and very loving.

Sometimes the world can be a bit hectic. Our lives can feel unbalanced and people or things happen that may disappoint. Sometimes you just need to see a photo of a lovely, friendly dog looking into your eyes and to remember that there is kindness, caring, love and peace in the world. Sending you all loving and peaceful vibes 🥰

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Reflections on boxing for seniors…

My daughter convinced me to take up boxing!

About a year or so ago my daughter wanted to take up boxing as a sport and for additional exercise. She can be a little shy in new situations (she gets that from me, although I’m way less shy these days! Benefits of getting older! 😂) So she asked if I’d come along to a boxing gym near my place (she lives across town, so nice to be closer to mine).

It was a women’s boxing class and the first session was pretty intense. Skipping, short sprints and more skipping to warm up and get the heart rate up. Then drills in basic boxing techniques. Jab, cross, hook and upper cut, boxing stance and correct footwork (although that is still a work in progress for me!). At the end of the class is a short strength and conditioning session with weights and then usually finishing with a plank or other abdominal strengthening exercise.

Now you might think it odd that I am happy to pick up a new sport in my 60s and that is where you’d be wrong. I love trying new things and I have found I really enjoy boxing. It’s a great cardiovascular workout, you need to have great coordination and balance skills and if not, they certainly will improve!

After I started I did a little research on the benefits of boxing and found that it is recommended for older people, not just the young. It really is a great overall workout, good for your mind health as well. Research shows that heart health is linked to good mental health outcomes and boxing keeps your mind active too.

As with anything, check with your medical and/or health practitioner to determine if picking up a new exercise regimen will benefit your health.

My daughter has now joined another gym closer to her home and has regular boxing & sparring and strength and conditioning training, she’s no longer too shy to put on her gear and head to her gym, it’s a great sense of community and everyone at boxing (at her gym and our original gym) are super friendly and helpful. The coaches are fantastic and the workout is intense and fun!

She still comes along to our original gym with me for our weekly boxing session, followed by dinner and a catch up at my place.

The photo at the top of this post was taken by my daughter right after a training session, I edited the photo to just keep the reflection of myself in the mirror. I think it’s a great shot and captures the vibe of boxing perfectly!

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Not a grandmother and that’s ok!

Not a grandmother and I’m totally fine with that!

First up I will say that grandparents are awesome and I’m happy for you if you have grandies. Ok, now onto my story. My daughter, who is in her early 30s, told me a couple of years back that she decided she did not want to have children. She is of that generation of women that carefully consider their life choices and make decisions based on what is right for them. 

I recall back when I was younger, in my early/mid 20s (in the 1980s, sheesh that was a long while ago!) there was a lot of pressure to have children. Whether you would make a good parent or not, the societal expectation was very much that you marry and have children (not always in that order 😂) but you get my drift, yes?

I was called selfish as I wasn’t sure I wanted children and dared to voice my opinion (I also didn’t get around to having my daughter until I was almost 32, which was not so common back in the day). I was puzzled at the idea of being called selfish for not wanting children. I still don’t quite get it. Young women make different and better choices these days, but there is still pressure and the ‘selfish’ word still gets thrown around a bit.

Choosing to live a full and happy life of work, travel, relationships, friends, volunteering, pets, hobbies, interests, fitness and fun seems a sensible choice to me. The world can be a bit of an unsettling place and not one we necessarily wish to bring children into. That said, I realize that people choose to have children as it’s a deep seated desire/need for them and again, good for them, but it’s not for everyone and that is fine and dandy.

I also hear folk of my age group who pester their adult children into having children as they want to be made ‘grandparents’ and have meaning and purpose in their lives. Heck, my mother pestered me and she already had a few grandies before I got around to producing another. She used to point to a space on the wall that she left ready for my child’s portrait, in between all the others. I told her I’d give her a photo of my cat, I think I was ahead of my time or just cheeky. Same/same!

I do not need grandchildren to add value to my life. I am content with my life and my relationship with my daughter is loving and close.

The photo for this post is of me and my daughter when she was a baby 🥰 and I 100% support her in any decision she makes about her life as an adult and I am incredibly proud of the way she has turned out. She is loving, kind, generous, thoughtful, smart and absolutely my best friend!

 

 

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Playing around with images…

Having fun with digital art and images

First up, this is not an advertisement and I am not suggesting you use the website I am talking about. I use Canva at work and home to develop digital images. I have a bit of fun playing around with it, but I am by no means an expert nor do I have a particularly good artistic eye.

I use the free version and find that I can generally find either a free template or adapt one of my photos to play around with and hopefully improve.

I got an email from Canva this week (and like pretty much every website, I get daily updates all the time and most I just delete). This one caught my attention. It was a new option to change text to images. Basically you type in text and then Canva gives you a selection of four images based on the words you have entered. The feature image of this post was one of “butterflies in a field”. Not exactly a super creative idea, but the image is sweet and pretty.

I found this intriguing and kind of fun. I think it’s still in the testing phase and I guess eventually they will charge for it. I jumped onto the site and spent a creative (wasteful) half an hour creating images from sentences. Like a “golden fluffy dog in a magical forest” This is one of the four images suggested:

fluffy dog in a magical forest

You can get the images in various formats for social media posting. I opted for blogpost images for obvious reasons! 😅

I tried to get a bit more creative and put in “Beautiful Australian wildflowers” as I have a fondness for the flora of my country. What I got was certainly pretty, but not exactly specific to our wildflowers. Nonetheless, I did have a lot of fun playing around with this new part of Canva. Like I said, this is not an endorsement or an advertisement, just me having fun, playing around with something different and new!

flowers

 

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Gratitude

What does gratitude look like to you?

Everyone talks about gratitude and how to include gratefulness into your everyday life. Whether that’s thinking of 5 things to be grateful for when you wake up or recalling 5 things from the day when you go to sleep. You can even buy a “gratitude journal” to record and review your thoughts.

I try to remember to incorporate thoughts of gratitude most days. Some days are easier. For example, when it’s a lovely sunny day or something goes well in my daily life or my dog looks at me in that cute, doggie way!

When I was younger the thought of gratitude was not high on my list. I had a lot of resentments about life. Why did my relationships always end (and often end badly), why couldn’t I hang on to someone? Why were my jobs so difficult? I had many great career opportunities in my mid life, but the early years were difficult, heck so were some of my career choices! I’ve also had my fair share of mean or bullying bosses and that can make your work life intolerable.

I often used to say to myself that if either my work life or my relationship life were ok, then I was fine. But if both fell apart, then life became overwhelming! There were times when both did spectacularly fall apart and I’d be left reeling.

At one point I went to see a psychologist to try and figure things out with some counselling. They said I was smart enough to figure things out for myself (really? then why was I in their office seeking help?) I got sent home with a bunch of articles and notes on books I should read. The one takeaway that I found of value was the concept of daily gratitude.

Initially it was a struggle to find things that invoked gratitude, but it did become easier over time. Although it is always easier if life is being reasonable! However, it is definitely worth it when life is complex and difficult.

Several years ago I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and that diagnosis actually helped a lot. It made sense of things and I finally understood that constant feeling of underlying dread and fear that has been a constant thread in my life. I try to maintain a “drama” free lifestyle and I prefer to not have people or situations in my life that create mayhem and havoc. Sometimes it is unavoidable and I have had people who are manipulative and controlling trying to have a negative impact on my life.

However, I am way better at identifying this behaviour from the get-go and that really changes my response. I create a safe space within my mind and my heart that allows me the distance needed to understand what is going on and to recognize that it is not about me, it’s about them! ❤️

 

 

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Seniors Card!

It finally arrived in the mail…

I am so excited! My partner laughed at me, he said he’d never seen anyone so happy to be getting older! And I’m like “but, senior’s card!” What’s not to be happy about? 😊

I became eligible when I turned 64 and I started working part-time. It’s a fantastic card to have if you ask me. I get a whole bunch of discounts which are really helpful.

The discounts include my council (shire) rates and water rates; free public transport (trains & buses) and a concession rate during peak travel times; cinema, gym membership, swimming pool, home security & hearing aids (not that I need those yet!) and a 10% discount at my local vet (perfect for my dog, those vet bills can be steep!)

There’s also a number of competitions and prizes being run. There’s one I’ve entered for a trip to Vietnam which would be really cool. There is a photography competition and I’m thinking of entering in a couple of the categories. I may or may not win any of these competitions, but I certainly enjoy having the opportunity to enter.

Having this card has opened up a whole new world and I am thrilled!

If you live in Western Australia, here is the link to the website so you can see if are eligible!

 

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What are you scared of?

A few of my fears – we all have some.

I guess I could say that there have been many things that have freaked me out over the years. I used to be terrified of public speaking. I got over that one when I started working as a university lecturer – no time to panic when you have to deliver a lecture to a room full of students! I would still sometimes feel faint and nauseated at the beginning of a lecture, but once I settled into the rhythm and (mostly) got the room engaged, it was fine.

I didn’t have much of a choice, I was studying for my PhD and I was a single mother and needed to work to top up my scholarship. I was offered tutoring first, then the opportunity to deliver lectures. I know that wanting to provide the best I could for my daughter meant not giving in to the panic. Besides which, I come from fairly humble origins and I was first in family to reach higher education. That is a privilege that many people still don’t have, so I took a breath and walked into my first class ready to teach.

I am also unnerved by spiders. I know they are useful to have around and they keep other bugs in line (mosquitoes and suchlike). But there is literally nothing more scream-worthy than unknowingly walking into a spider’s web outside, feeling the sticky web in your face and hair and then panicking that a big, juicy spider is likely now wandering about in your hair or down your back! 🕷️

I grew up in Melbourne, Australia. We had huntsman spiders in our back shed that were as big as mice. Big, grey and fluffy with a long leg span! Seriously go google huntsman spider pictures and you’ll see what I mean! I would post a pic here, but I don’t want to unnecessarily freak anyone out. They are fairly harmless and don’t really bother people, but they sure do look intimidating.

My other fear is a fear of heights. I get quite faint and wobbly if I am anywhere near a clifftop or looking at the view from a tall building. Heck, even walking over a pedestrian road bridge can make me uncomfortable.

As I get older though, I find that some fears have either faded out somewhat or I can manage them better. A couple of years back, right before the pandemic hit, I was on a trip with my partner and his family in Bali. It was a holiday for my partner’s birthday and I had only been with him for around 6 months. I wanted to do something special for him, so I booked a day trip to Bali Swing in Ubud. You are literally sitting on a wooden swing with rope handles and then pushed out over the jungle and rice fields. The views are spectacular! My partner likes to be a bit adventurous, so I thought it an ideal and unique birthday experience for him.

He loved it, he tried all of the options and he was thrilled. He then said it was my turn! Oof! And I did it! I wasn’t mad keen, however I thought it was a once in a lifetime experience, and that it would be an amazing outlook and view. And it was. It really was beautiful and scary and exhilarating. I’m glad I overcame my lifelong fear of heights to try this one thing. For me it was a challenge and an experience worth overcoming my fear. Plus I have the photos to prove it! 😂

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You do you and I’ll do me!

Unwanted 0pinions!

I was having coffee with a friend yesterday and we were chatting about our interests. I’d been to the gym that morning and he commented that I seem to go to the gym a lot. I’m like mmhmm and I run, swim and dance. I’m very active and I like to stay fit and healthy, for me it helps with the ageing process and I feel better for working on my fitness. He then asked if it was an “escape.” I’m like huh? I was feeling a bit annoyed at this stage as there was a level of judgement coming through. I said, no, it’s not an escape, I actually enjoy staying fit and healthy.

He then said that people can take it too far. I’m not sure what he meant by that, however I said what I do to stay fit and healthy and strong is for me. I don’t comment or pass judgement on other people’s choices, I’m not the “fitness or health police”.  But I was feeling like I had to justify what I do with my life.

He then told me a story of a dear friend of his who died suddenly (helicopter accident). He said his friend was really fit and only ate healthy food and didn’t drink alcohol. He then said “If my friend were still alive, I’m sure he’d say he wished he’d eaten more burgers and junk food!”

Alrighty. I offered my condolences, because it was sad that his friend had passed. I didn’t say anything else as it seemed as if he was using that story to again throw shade on my fit and healthy lifestyle. But I can for sure, hand on heart, say that if I died suddenly; I definitely would not think with my last breath on earth that I should have eaten more burgers! I would hope I had time to have a final thought of love for my daughter and gratitude for my life.

Find your own path in life and let me follow mine!

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