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Hello, lovely readers!

After years of dealing with partners who were emotionally unavailable, controlling, or downright abusive, I now have incredibly strong boundaries and I will not accept less than respect – that goes both ways!

But let me be clear, healing from toxic relationships is not an easy process. It takes time, self-reflection, and a willingness to confront the pain and trauma that has been inflicted upon us.

For me, the healing process began by recognizing the patterns of behavior that were present in my previous relationships. I had to take a hard look at myself and acknowledge the ways in which I had contributed to these toxic dynamics, whether it was by enabling my partner’s abusive behavior or by suppressing my own needs and desires in order to keep the peace.

Once I had gained this awareness, I began to set healthy boundaries and prioritize my own well-being. This meant cutting ties with people who were toxic or who did not have my best interests at heart and learning to say “no” to situations that did not align with my values or needs.

It has been a difficult and painful journey, but one that was ultimately worth it.

So, if you’re currently healing from a toxic relationship, know that it is possible to move on and find love again. But it requires doing the hard work of self-reflection and prioritizing your own well-being. Trust yourself and your instincts, and don’t settle for anything less than a partner who treats you with love and respect. It’s never too late.

Until next time, keep loving life and moving forward towards the healthy and fulfilling relationships you deserve.

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Move on – no, seriously. Move on!

I was watching this guy on TikTok, Paul Scanlon. He’s a mentor and is big on self-awareness and being true to your authentic self.

One of his videos made me laugh and almost spit out my morning coffee!

He basically said: “Don’t blame a clown for acting like a clown. Ask yourself why you keep going to the circus.”

Well then.

Ok.

So today’s message is simple. If you are entangled with a toxic person who literally acts like a clown (aka – gaslighting, emotionally abusive, narcissistic behaviour, lacks empathy and compassion and treats you poorly). Then leave the circus! 🤡

Take the broken pieces of yourself and take the time to heal. Nurture yourself. Practice self-care. If you haven’t already read my blog post on self-care after a relationship breakdown (click the link and it’ll open in a new tab, then come back, I’ll be waiting).

You need to look after you. Don’t worry about them. Clowns will be clowns, they literally just move onto the next one and start their appalling behaviour all over again.

But don’t worry. Karma is real. You won’t necessarily know when or how, but rest assured, karma is waiting for them in the wings and when she strikes, they won’t know what hit them.

You focus on you. Love and nurture yourself. Surround yourself with your people who love and care for you.

Do something special for yourself. Stop the spiraling thoughts. Focus on every positive thing in your life, even the small ones. Be grateful you are here and that you have another day to make your own.

You have got this! I believe in you, because I believe in myself too!

 

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